I was there once. 

I thought my life would end because my “first love” and I broke up.

I was spiraling out of control trying to find boys to “replace him” and hoping jealousy would bring him back, but really all I was doing was making myself look foolish.

Then it happened.. 

He got a girlfriend, and they seemed to be the perfect couple. Then, I really lost it. I began looking harder for boys  (I was trying to talk to every ex-bf, desperately walking down the street hoping someone would like me, any boy that said hello i though I had to make him my boyfriend.. Lol)I felt I was “loveless”. I turned to Tumblr in my hard time and blogged endlessly about love..Finally, I gave up. Not like, one day I said I;m done with this nonsense, but gradually.. It began with deleting my Facebook, then my circle of friends became really small (at one point I felt friendless). Then I just stopped caring. I just began thinking about ME !How do I feel ? What do I want to do ? What do I feel is right ? What’s best for ME ?I didn’t care about anyone else, or their opinions. I’ve always wanted to cut my hair .. guess what ? I cut my hair !I smiled, and spoke to strangers .. wishing them a good day even when I felt like crap.I talked to people I’ve always known, but always ignored. I enjoyed helping others. 

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IF YOU DON’T WANT TO READ MY SAD, SOB STORY.. YOU CAN JUST SKIP TO HERE

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Finally, after what seemed like an eternity- I experienced happiness. I was finally able to say I truly didn’t care about anyone else, (including my ex-boyfriend), but myself! Then it happened! :D Unexpectedly! Without warning! Swept me off my feet! All I’ve ever wanted <3 But that’s not the point of this post.

The point is that, If I can you can ! If I can get over a 4 year relationship (imagine all the emotions, memories, thoughts etc I had to get rid of)  trust me you can ! Right now you may feel like your world is ending. WHATEVER the situation is surrounding your break-up my advice is GIVE YOURSELF TIME .. 

1. GIVE YOURSELF TIME BEFORE YOU RUSH INTO A NEW RELATIONSHIP. Its not fair to yourself, or that person that you start a new relationship with “baggage” from the last. Learn from your break-up. Is there something you did that you could have done better? Is there a conversation that you would now have before the relationship gets too serious? Is there something you wish you could have done with your ex that could have salvaged the relationship & may help you in a new relationship?

2. GIVE YOURSELF TIME BEFORE YOU TRY TO BECOME “FRIENDS” WITH THAT PERSON. This just complicates things and truly and honestly, as much as you don’t want to believe it, YOU CAN NOT BE JUST FRIENDS with someone you had romantic feelings for !

3. GIVE YOURSELF TIME TO “FIND YOURSELF” In many relationships, we give so much to catering to the other persons needs, making that person happy, making the relationship last.. etc. that we forget who we are, what we want, what’s best for us..

It may seem like an eternity of “Giving yourself time” but It’s definitely worth it ! It may be easier if you DONT..

1. DON’T-Sit there reminiscing about that person, memories, what you could have done differently. 

2. DON’T-Look at that person’s Facebook!

3. DON’T-Do things seeking that persons attention, it’ll hurt you when you realize they probably don’t care, or if they do care.. you won’t be giving yourself time to get over it.

4. DO-Talk about your feelings. They will be confusing.. one day you’ll feel like you hate that person, the next day you’ll wish they were still here, the next day a song will come on and you’ll start crying.. trust me it normal! What isn’t normal is dealing with it by yourself. Talk to someone! If you have no one to talk to, YOU CAN TALK TO ME. I don’t and won’t ever judge! However, I can and will empathize and be there for WHATEVER you need! Don’t believe me? Try me ;) Lol